You Should Take Up Space

Oct 23, 2018

 by Nicole Molin

Have you ever had the experience of trying NOT to be seen?

Maybe you didn’t speak up when you wanted to, maybe it was trying to make yourself appear physically smaller, maybe it was giving into fear of judgement or being “too opinionated.”

If you can relate to trying to make yourself smaller in some way – from your body to your voice – I’m here to tell you that you SHOULD take up more space in this world!

You are here to be seen and heard, to create impact, and to speak your truth.

When we fail to do these things and show up for what we stand for and against, we inadvertently make ourselves smaller. We diminish our significance, and that, my friend, should never happen.

Believe it or not, but I use to do this as a new personal trainer. I was in my early 20’s and worked with highly successful business men and women. They all held prestigious positions in the workplace, organizations, government, etc. With that came very strong personalities and opinions. When their thoughts on proper fitness and nutrition would come out so would the shy girl in me. I would make myself smaller, talk even quieter as I nodded and agreed even though I knew they couldn’t be farther from the truth.

You see this may have made the situation less confrontational and look “pretty” at the moment, but in fact I was doing my clients a disservice by not standing up for what I believed to be true as a professional.

If you’ve worked with me in the past decade, you know that I’ve turned into the more powerful version of myself and speak straight up to what I know to be true no matter if it’s what the client I’m speaking to wants to hear or not.  I do this because it’s what is going to get my clients results and to me that’s one of the most important things when it comes to me being a coach.

Can you think of a scenario where you made yourself smaller to make things more comfortable for yourself or for others? How would the BIGGER, more powerful version of you react instead? Which would inspire confidence and get better results?